People often ask me if things feel different after getting married. Since my husband and I cohabitated for a year before we even got engaged, I would've expected to answer "no." Well, I was wrong--and never did that become more apparent than when I bought our first water filter as a married couple.
My husband only likes to buy tried-and-true products. He is anti-trends. Me? I've tried everything from fermented gel lotion (it's the next big thing), to sleep-mask self tanners (get on it), to long distance energy healing sessions. If I see something new, I'm curious to test it out. 50% of my GChat conversations are essentially me sending links of products to my friends followed by "I want this." My husband writes off my ADHD product obsession tendencies half affectionately, half mockingly as an effect of my "blog life." Well, someone's gotta try all the new things.
In water-filter terms, this personality discrepancy means that he lives and dies by the same Brita filter he's used since college while I'm always keeping my eye out for something a little sleeker and cooler. For a year, I tried screw-on faucet filters and a couple alternate water jugs; sadly I found all of them to be quite poorly designed and unpleasant to use. So Brita it was. But when I saw an ad for the SOMA water filter earlier this year, I knew I had to try it. It looked cool. I liked the way the brand photographed the product. The carafe seemed like something I wouldn't mind displaying on our new dining table. There was a clear thought process behind the design. And plus, we had just moved to a new apartment with a fancy Sub-Zero fridge and this would look peeerfect in it. Without another thought, I quickly hit "order."
No sooner had I triumphantly texted my husband that I had upgraded our water filter, did he begin to get concerned. "This is going to suck," he preemptively declared. "Return it immediately. We have 10 Brita filters ready to go. Don't drink the HYPE." I could sense his annoyance growing with every sentence he typed.
"Well this is odd," I thought. Granted, we had never actually bought anything together as a couple before, but he never really seemed to pay too much attention to my purchases. What's with the sudden interest? The more adamant I became about really wanting the SOMA, the more intensely he matched me in opposition. Were we really bickering over this? Is this what married life is going to be like, where we'd have to agree and come to a joint conclusion on every little thing? Even if it's just water???
The short answer, I realized, is yep.
Luckily, this story has a happy ending. A week later my SOMA arrived and I eagerly set it up and put it to use (didn't even wait the suggested 15 minute filter pre-soak time). The quality of the product was just as beautiful in real life as in those pictures and the design really was so much friendlier than anything else I've seen. The fact that there's no handle or removable lid is awesome. But it was really love at first taste. I don't know what kind of wizardry they put in the filters (the one downside is that the brand is not officially released this info yet), but the water that came out of that carafe was the crispiest, clearest, freshest water I've ever tasted.
My husband begrudgingly agreed. In fact, he kind of really likes this thing now.
So I guess the real lesson of marriage here is: try to agree on joint purchases unless you for a fact know that you're right, in which case, go ahead and just get what you want and win him over later after he actually gets to try the product.
If you're interested in trying to SOMA for yourself, here's $10 off.